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Posted by: Brian Parsley
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Why “Thank You” Isn’t Enough: Showing Gratitude That Matters

We all know we should be grateful, right? But when you hear the word “gratitude”, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Appreciating what you have, noticing the good stuff? That’s a start, but let’s dive deeper. Because honestly, it’s easy to slip into focusing on what we don’t have, wishing for more, and forgetting to be thankful for what’s right in front of us.

Here’s a hard truth: life isn’t fair. There will always be people with more than you, people with less than you. That doesn’t mean you should feel guilty or depressed, but focusing on that isn’t productive. One of the greatest ways to feel genuinely grateful is to give back, to be generous towards others.

When “Thank You” Becomes Automatic

We toss around “thank you” all the time. It’s polite, it’s expected. And that’s fine! Good manners matter. But sometimes, “thank you” feels like a reflex, not a truly heartfelt expression. Think about it – a mumbled “thanks” at the grocery store, a routine “thank you for your business” on a customer service call… maybe even a flat “thanks” from your boss that leaves you wondering what exactly it was for.

Don’t get me wrong, keep saying “thank you”! But I believe real gratitude goes beyond that. A simple “thank you” can become an easy way out of genuinely showing how much we appreciate someone.

Gratitude = Action!

See, gratitude isn’t just a feeling to have tucked away inside. If you’re grateful but never express it, what’s the point? Everyone craves hearing “I care about you”, and feeling appreciated is no different. But like any meaningful message, it’s got to be about more than just the words.

So, How Do You Do It?

Here’s the challenge: there’s no one-size-fits-all way to express gratitude! But here’s a good starting point:

  1. Pick Someone Specific: Not a vague “I’m grateful for my family”, but a single person – a friend, coworker, mentor, whoever.
  2. Make a List: What do you appreciate about them? How have their actions helped you? What about their personality makes your life better? Don’t just list generic qualities, dig for the specifics.
  3. Communicate It! This is where you need to know your audience. A heartfelt letter might be perfect for some, while others would prefer a face-to-face chat. No generic ‘gratitude texts’, please!

Don’t Wait

Remember what Ralph Waldo Emerson said: “You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late.”. I learned that the hard way…my Grandma Parsley was my idol. I loved spending time with her and when I was 18, I was supposed to stay with her for the weekend and I went out of town instead. Unfortunately, she passed before the next time I saw her. I never got to share with her how grateful I was to have her in my life.

We take so much for granted. The beauty of a sunrise, the smell of good food, even the voices of those we love… things we only seem to fully appreciate once they’re gone.

My Challenge to You

Don’t wait until tomorrow to act on your gratitude. Don’t just feel thankful, do something about it! Share that appreciation with the people who make your life better.

Let me know in the comments – have you ever had a time when someone’s expressed gratitude in a way that really resonated with you? I’d love to hear your stories!

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